Here's a test to see where you stand.
- Are you terrified to write anything negative about your mother?
- Are you terrified that if you write a sex scene readers will think you're one of the participants?
- Are you, on the other hand, able to reveal other people's secrets, their pecadillos, faults, but never you own?
If any of these answers are YES you must set yourself the task of writing about them immediately!